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Daddy has decided he was not ready to go home. There have been no incidents. He just realizes he was not ready. We are making arrangements to take him back.
We waited three hours to see a doctor to get a chest x-ray, a TB test and orders written to allow us to take my father back to rehab. At the end of the three hour wait, just as the doctor finally walked into the treatment room he decided he was not going back to rehab and wheeled out of the facility. So, he is still at home with my mother tonight.
He started to change his mind again after we had left the office where we had spent three hours waiting. I had to tell him, “No more”. He had given up the opportunity to go back today when he “walked out” without having had the x-ray or the TB stick. There are no orders written and I couldn’t go back and start over on another three hour wait. He needs to make a decision and stick with it.
The problem was the carpet at the apartment. It is harder to roll on than a hard floor. He was managing but it was hard work. He was getting depressed and my mother was getting herself worked up over how depressed he was and how he was struggling on the carpet.
He wants her to leave him alone to take as long as he needs. He has managed the trips to the bathroom successfully.
She felt she was seeing him slip into depression. He is depressed. He realizes at 90 years old he is just holding on. He is not going to be getting back to an active life in which he can do as he pleases. This depresses him but it depresses him more to be in the rehab/nursing facility.
I felt as if I was being crushed between a rock and a hard place. He wanted to go home. She is afraid for him to be at home. It was as if I was crushed between the Battle of the Titans. Their wills were smacking me from both sides and I felt as if I was being pounded into a pulp.
The doctor did walk in just as my father was leaving. She said if he wanted to go home there was nothing she, my mother or I could do about it. He is his own master. So, that sort of took it out of my hands. He said he was going home and so we went home.
I could have smacked him when he started to change his mind after we had left the office.
I have a beef roast on cooking. I woke up later than usual. I remembered I needed to get my turkey legs in the freezer, found the beef roast and put it on. I had to take the lid off because the water was overflowing. I put aluminum foil over the pan and this gave enough room for the steam to escape to keep it from over flowing.
Lady Hawke I am surprised your Dad wanted to go back into rehab because the wheel chair was so hard to push in the apartment. Maybe you can think about renting a mororized one until he gets his strength back. It is harder to move a wheelchair over carpet and sometimes when you have been ill, you do not have the extra energy to move it around. Even if you have to buy one it will be cheaper in the long run. You can always sell it when it is no longer needed.
The sun is shining but it is cold.
Lady Hawke perhaps he could look at navigating on carpet as therapy. He will be whiz on hard surfaces once he is good on carpet. ;)
I saw the shoulder doctor on Tuesday. He said “surgery” and I said “what kind?”, so he said “arthroscopic”. Then I asked how long I would be out of work. He asked me what kind of work I do. He said that I will have use of my hand and wrist, so I should be out only 2 weeks.
This s going to have to wait until late February or march. In addition to the leave time needed after the surgery, I will need to have a chest x-ray and probably a new MRI plus clearances from both my cardiologist and oncologist. So that is at least 2 more days needed for pre-op, not counting a final office visit to his office.
His PA said that he does surgery on Thursdays. So it will really be 12 workdays for the operation and recovery/rehab. I need to start saving my sick leave. After the first 7 days, including the weekend, my short term disability insurance should kick in. That way if I need to be out more than the 2 weeks he estimates, I will be covered and not have to use any leave. I’ll just be on “family leave” without pay. ;)
Such fun!! Yuck! ;)
We have an appointment to see my father’s regular doctor today. He had problems with his bowels during the night for both nights he was home and messed up the bed. He made it to the bathroom but not before making a mess.The first night there was a protective pad but last night he got in bed without a protective pad. My mother has had a mess to deal both nights but particularly last night during which he made permanent damage to his mattress. It is more than she can handle. To be home he needs to be quicker in his mobility. When he realizes he needs to get up and go to the bathroom it can’t be such a struggle that he makes a mess before getting to the bathroom. He wears disposable underwear but it is not containing the mess.
So, he is really more than my mother can handle and he realizes it although he wishes it was not the case.
He needs more rehab, at least enough to know whether he is making progress or not.
Lady Hawke There are times when shopping the specialty sections of cataogs is worthwhile. Check out the link. It may be embarrassing, but sometimes that is the lesser problem. ;)
They have all the standard sizes and I think these are the soft and quiet ones. ;)
Just a quick flyby as I’m snowed under with work and writing and life stuff. I’m finishing my job at the end of December and hopefully will be working on a contract for just 4 days a week rather than the 80+ hour week I’m working at the moment.
Graymayne thanks for the nice things you said about my book and I would love to sign it for you. We definitely need to arrange another get together. BTW I have a white haired ukulele player in my 2nd book (wonder who that character is based on hahaha).
won my advice would be – if you can do the trip then go and do it. Good stuff like that doesn’t happen very often and you need to grab it while you can.
Hope everyone is well . . .. .I’ll be back soon (and yes that is both a threat and a promise hahahaha)
My father is back in rehab. It took the better part of the day to do the work that needed to be done to accomplish the readmit.
WOLFIE, good to see you. Once you finish your job and have a little more time I hope you come back more often.
Lady Hawke I am glad that order is now restored, you have had a chaotic few days! At least your father has been shown in no uncertain terms that he was not ready to return home, but I hope that he doesn’t remain depressed, although it is quite understandable. Old age is fine if you are fit.
Wolfie Looking forward to hearing more from you when your work load becomes more reasonable.
We went out for a pub meal and a natter with four ukulele friends yesterday evening, so that made a nice break in routine.
GREETINGS FROM MACNEAL HOSPITAL I have been admitted and I’m in a hospital bed as we speak.
As you all know I was feeling sick for weeks. On Wednesday I kept feeling my chest tight and sharp pains in my chest. I asked our nurse, sweet Patty, to check my blood pressure. It was a little bit high. I never told Patty I was having chest pains. She is a new nurse and doesn’t know me very well. The old nurse would have questioned me intensely and called an ambulance. :( she retired last June.
I knew I needed it checked out so when The DS called me after work at 3:30, as he does every day, I told him my symptoms. He told me that he was heading to MacNeal and I better meet him there. I drove to MacNeal. :(
At MacNeal I was admitted and scheduled for an angiogram. My last stress test had come out normal and my cardiologist felt I needed a more invasive test. Yesterday they did the angiogram and they found two blocked arteries. One at 80% the other 100%. They put a stent on the one that was blocked 80% and left the one that was blocked 100% alone. That artery had found other arteries to bypass my blood flow and it looked good.
So here I sit today. I may go home today or maybe tomorrow.
LadyHawke – what a stressful couple of days. For you and your mom. It must be really frustrating for your Dad too. Maybe if he does get stronger you might consider switching the carpet to hardwood floors. I know that my sister received a motorized wheelchair free of charge through her Medicaid and elderly state help. They also remodeled the bathroom to make it easier for her to enter the bathroom independently. You should check online to see if you have such help in your state. :)
MM Goodness me, no wonder you were feeling sick! I am so glad that you did the sensible thing.
We are having a grey, wet day:(
MM I am very glad they were able to sort this out with nothing more invasive than a stent… PLEASE if you ever feel like that again drop everything and get to a hospital ASAP!!!!
LH back in 2010 when my right leg shut down from the hematoma I had a hellacious time getting to the bathroom on my own for weeks & had a few ‘accidents’ as well. I totally understand what you & your dad are going through. Is it possible he could use a portable bedside commode? I had one & it really helped.
Hi Wolfie, I loved the book & can’t wait for the next installment! :+)
As far as the business with Sally goes, it is a far more complicated situation than I had originally contemplated. There are a host of unanswered problems… Not the least of which is what do I do about Kippy? What do I do about my home? The medical question is still ‘iffy’ & there are questions as to whether or not I would be covered if God forbid anything did happen while I was abroad. There are literally a dozen unanswered questions & time is running out. I really would love to go, but I just do not know… :+/
MM, I hope EVERYONE at home realizes they need to give you some space, time and assistance. Arguably, you are the most fragile person in the household. You can’t be expected to be at everyone else’s beck and call. You have the diabetes, the high blood pressure and the continuing heart issues. You shouldn’t have to work a full time job and be a servant once you reach home. We love you.
WON, I understand the situation you are in. What you want and what is good for you may be two different things. Maybe SALLY can work a compromise and come visit you once she is finished with her traveling.
We can’t change the floors. They are in an apartment now. The toilet is almost immediately at the bed anyway. Then, with a bedside potty chair we face the problem of who is going to carry it and empty it. Neither of them can and I am not always there as often as I would need to be to keep that from becoming an issue. My father messed things up so quickly once he realized he needed to go that he wouldn’t have made the potty chair, even if it had been next to the bed.
MM: Sometimes you must take care of yourself no matter what others expect of you.
Lady Hawke: Hope the extra time in rehab will make things go easier for your dad.
I have been home for a few days now, and am fully immersed into the cooking and shopping and laundry again. But oh, I did enjoy my few days on my own, and it’s done me a lot of good. As has this two weeks off. It really feels like much longer. And my DS and I are getting on wonderfully!
MM, I am sorry to see your news. Hopefully now they can make you better. You are in my thoughts. xx
Lady Hawke, I am pleased your Dad was sensible enough not to struggle on at home. Hopefully a few more weeks will build his strength and confidence, and next time he is released he will be ready and happy. xx
Won, good luck with your dilemmas. xx
Hugs for everyone! xx
Asti Your happy post has lightened my November gloom:)
Ironsos Have you been having fun with your new slow cooker during your cold snap?
Graymayne: I am trying to cook simple things till I get used to portion size. Most meal recipes are based
on feeding four and I need to learn to cut quantities down a bit. The cold snap is over with temps reaching
near 65f (18.3c) the next couple days.
The pork spoon roast I prepared came out like a normal roast instead of pulled pork so I still have a lot to learn.
It was quite tasty despite of it’s texture.
Glad to hear it, Graymayne, especially as I am feeling a lot happier, and definitely more relaxed than I have in a long while!
I should have said earlier, that I am wildly excited about FINALLY getting my Mum and her Kindle up and running. She got a big attack of the giggles at the ease of the “1 Click,” has already finished her first book, and I am sure, will now fly. She’ll love it! She IS loving it!
And I have to go to bed. It’s getting on for 1am here. Gosh, I’ve missed you all! xx
Ironsos Have a look at Slow Cooker Convenience Food for Singles (Slow Cooker Library) by Catherine Atkinson on Amazon, OR do a search for cooking for one. I found several books for UK people but that’s not what you want.
ASTI, such good news is a happy thing. I’m glad to hear the tide has turned.
I have delivered my mother to my father for the day. I have so much to do around here I don’t know where to start. We have never recovered from the onslaught of extraneous furniture from my parent’s or cousin’s house. We are still rearranging and separating things for donation and disposal. I am having to make decisions to eliminate items I saved from my parent’s downsizing seven months ago. The holidays are arriving and the place I put my Christmas tree is a pile of boxes.
I honestly don’t see how I am going to do either tree this year, much less two. I know I will have to put ours up for my daughter but my father is very likely to be in rehab when Christmas comes. Since I am working I won’t have the time I usually have to devote to all the decorating. If my father is home maybe I can put up a much smaller tree at their apartment, using the oldest and best of their ornaments. When I took the tree down I organized the ornaments by drawer in their new ornament box by age, value and sentimental connection. So, I can find the most important ornaments fairly easily.
I saw all the photos of various members of the Royal Family at Remembrance Sunday events today. In the US our Veteran’s Day will be commemorated tomorrow. There will be a quantity of wreathe laying here as well.
I can remember WWI veterans in the shopping malls handing out poppies when I was a child. I have recently realized those WWI veterans were probably only in their 60s an 70s when I was a child. They seemed quite old to me then. Until I was pulling the WWI items out my parent’s attic I had not fully realized the old men of my childhood had participated in that conflict. The young men and middle aged me of my childhood were veterans of WWII, Korea, and Vietnam. Now, they are the elderly men of my daughter’s childhood.
I have purchased tickets for my DS and daughter to attend a Gershwin Concert next Sunday. I would have liked to have attended as well but the tickets were too dear for all of us to go. I have taken her to so many theatrical events and left my DS home I decided it was time for him to attend something with her and I should be the one to stay home.
Hello everyone: After being dismissed from the hospital on Friday I was bak in the hospital 8 hours later.
While at home I went to bed and felt dizzy and a great noise in my head. It was almost deafening. Right after the noise I would feel a rush of heat down my body and dizzy. I woke the DS and told him I felt ill. It. Was 3:00am. I dressed and the DS told me to lay down on the couch while he dressed. As I sat on the couch I felt the dizzy spell. The DS called out to me and said it looked like a seizure. We hurried to the Emergency room where they took me in immediately. They witnessed my episode and told me I would be placed in the hospital’s ICU. I was actually fainting. I was not aware because I was not on my feet when this happened. My cardiologist was called and it was determined that the bottom part of my heart was stopping to zero. I was placed on emergency surgery and they went back in to look at my heart. Once they were sure my new stent was ok , the put a pace maker in my heart.
So here I sit today. I was in the ICU on Saturday and most of today Sunday. They moved me into a regular room today and they tell me I might go home tomorrow. I will be waiting for that. :)
Oh, MM, I’m so sorry. That is so frightening. I’ve never heard of anything like that. I’ll pray this pacemaker is the answer for you.
MM: All I can say is wow! I hope the pacemaker solves the problem.
Hope everyone has a great Veterans Day.
MM What a good thing that your DS is so quick off the mark in the middle of the night! That sounded like a very alarming episode to go through, but I am relieved that you now have a pacemaker. I hope that the rest of your family stop treating your home like an hotel. Please, please, please take care of yourself during this upcoming festive season.
Lady Hawke I am delighted to see that you have plans to curtail your customary festive preparations, your life is quite busy enough as it is without that. Just to have your home sorted out would be a happier state of affairs, order first, perfection can come later. I often think that life is a bit like playing Solitaire, unless you move the cards in the correct order you don’t win the game.
Lady Hawke I think I will just put up my 4 foot tree that has the lights already on. Well it is not regular lights but the kind from light wire that change colors………. I put up my big tree for the last several years but I just don’t feel like doing it this year. Since I got the new couch I don’t really have room for the big tree anyway.
MM What a week for you. I hope the pace maker solves your problems. It does sound like you will have to slow down. Perhaps you need to think about some maid service or in house help especially if you want to contionue to work outside the home.
Won You do have more to think about than just hopping on a plane and taking an extended vacation. What ever you do you do not want to take any chances with your insurance. I hate to say it but the insurance company is probably just waiting to find some reason to cancel you. It sounds like as much as Sally wants you to go with her, it might be easier if she comes stay with you after she gets her business taken care of. I do remember you saying you were never going to leave Kippy for an extended time again,. I don’t visit family and friends as much as I want to because of my dogs.
Ironsos Your snow is finally going to arrive here today. I don’t think we will have much accumulation but you never know. I buy a small roast to make. I usually put in potatoes and carrots. Then I eat it for several days. I make veg. beef soup for a new meal. You can also do this with pork. This usually makes my meals for a week. Normally it is time for the soup but I opened a jar of beans yesterday so probably will finish my roast without making the soup. I do need to make more corn meal muffins. A box of Jiffy Corn Meal Muffin Mix will make 6 big muffins. The muffins taste so good.
Asti So glad you made it back home safely. Every marriage needs a time to refresh every once in awhile.
Graymayne So nice you have found a place to go out to eat that is closer to your home. I think about stopping and eating when I go out but if I am by myself I usually just go home without stopping. When my daughter and I are out shopping, we always stop somewhere to eat. I always pay since she drives.
I have gotten my winter clothes out and washing them. I need to put away the summer clothes too.